Monday Rhythm

Our weekends tend to be very busy. On Saturday, I went from ballet, toGeorge Mason to get Michael, back to ballet, to the craft store, the sports store, the yarn store, back to ballet, home and then to football. Michael took Christian to a homeschooled teen event that night.
Sunday was even busier, if that's possible.

We spent hours outside at soccer.When my children reach the end of the weekend, they are happy but they are tired. Monday is always tough, particularly since, by Monday, my husband's been gone three or four days.There's weariness all around.

So this week, I decided to stop trying to make Monday very academic. After beginning with prayer and reciting our September poem, we spent the morning making fairy houses for our seasons table. The nice thing about spending weekends out at soccer is that usually we're in parklike settings. Lots of collecting can happen there. So, the children brought their rocks and their acorns to the scene. A craft on Monday morning engages their hands before their heads are quite awake. By the end of our crafting time, they were more into the indoor rhythm.

Then, we had lunch. After lunch, we dedicated about an hour and a half to geography work. We all worked together after that to put the house in order. By 5 or so, it was time to drive to ballet, and soccer and football again. The little ones listened to books in the van while I dropped off and picked up. Have I mentioned how much I dislike driving? How about how much I dislike being out of my house in the late afternoon? I read somewhere that most Waldorf enthusiasts are not at all fond of books on tape. Frankly, they are the only thing making that time bearable. At least we're sharing stories. (Of course Waldorf enthusiasts wouldn't be much for ballet and competitive soccer either, but that's another post entirely.) After nine o'clock, I collapse into bed on Mondays.

September_2007_008_3 But I awoke this morning, pulled the blinds to let in the rising sun, and saw how lovely Monday's work looked in the golden light. And I decided that the new Monday rhythm is a fine one, indeed.

Dance,Girls! Time doesn't stand still!

In a time that doesn't seem so very long ago, our dear friend Keenan was a little girl, playing fashion diva.
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Now, she's a grown up ballerina, an American at the Kirov, training in Russia. This is a rare, rare, rare occurrence. Keenan was invited there by the director himself who saw the incredible talent and the dedication that sets her apart from countless others dancers around the world.  I hear it on good authority that the Russian dancers are not all that thrilled to have an American in their midst and that, among other "annoyances," there is no washer nor dryer and she's washing all her clothes by hand. She went with a stash of blessed salt and store of rosary beads. An American Catholic in St. Petersburg. We love this brave, beautiful girl. And she's in our constant prayers.
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Today, my own fashion diva loves Keenan's hand-me-downs. (Courtney, if they were vintage when Keenan wore them, what are they now? And what will they be for Karoline? Well loved.)

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And today, Katie takes her very first ballet lesson ever. She's already told the world she is going to grow up to be just like Keenan. Not so fast, my love. Please. Not so fast.
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Many thanks to Courtney for the Keenan pics.

Are You Ready for Some Geography?...

August_2007_044Tonight begins Monday Night Football, noted on my calendar for the entire season as "MNF."  Why does a middle-aged mama note Monday Night Football on her calendar? I like to keep track of my husband. He won't be on the couch with a beer and a bowl of chips. He'll be at every Monday Night Football site all season long (with the exception of San Francisco tonight--he can't bi-locate so when MNF is at two locations, he's only at one of them;-). As much as we love sports around here and as grateful as we are for this job, this is a very long haul through the fall.

Last year, as my younger children began to figure out the rhythm to Mike's travels, we started moving a Post-it note arrow around on a big wall map so that they could see where he was. But a flat map on the wall doesn't really do much for a child's imagination. They couldn't really picture him where he was working.  Kim introduced me to the idea of geography textboxes these wonderful picture books, and an idea was born.

August_2007_2345044 Every week, on Monday, we spend the afternoon reading and writing about the state where Monday Night Football is being played. The books are packed with information and illustrations and pictures. There is a short rhyming verse on each page, perfect for the little ones. The older children spend more time with the book, reading the more involved columns on the page for detail.

Last year, the baby arrived four weeks into football season. I relied heavily on the idea in these free unit studies which are keyed to the books. This year, I think we are going to focus only on the information in the book during our study time. Each child is creating his or her own book. The books vary according to age and interest and I'm giving the children free reign to pull out of the alphabet books what matters most to them and then to express that in their notebooks.

On Monday evenings, we watch ESPN beginning well before the game. In all honesty, this has nothing to do with geography and everything to do with our Daddy's shows. But, the bonus to our devotion is that we see great scenic shots of the places we've just read in the books. All the way up through the pre-game show and the introduction, there are sights and sounds of the state we've studied.

I889878 Finally, as he dashes through the airport on his way home, Mike collects a few postcards from each state to add to the book. All the books we will use for Monday Night Football geography are linked on the sidebar. Maybe you'd like to travel with us this fall!

On Beauty

This summer, we traveled to the beach. We went to visit my mother and my aunt. They both live in a beachside community. You are picturing a house on stilts by the shore. I am going to paint a different picture. Both of them live in year 'round homes which are not at all the "roughin' it at the beach" type of houses. Instead, they are beautifully decorated showplaces which are hung with amazing art. Both homes are veritable feasts for the eyes.

We stayed primarily in my mother's home because, of the two, it was far more appropriate for small children. My aunt's home is a museum. Literally. The very house is equipped with serious hurricane protection, blackout blinds, and a security system that rivals a fine art gallery. That's because it is a fine art gallery. My aunt collects art. Not long ago, much of the art in her home hung in a museum. Now, it is in a beautiful house on the water.

One Sunday afternoon, as a thunderstorm brewed, we were driven up from the sand and surf and into my aunt's house. There, my children of all ages, in their swimsuits, walked from room to room and stood in awe of fine American art. Washing_day_2 I showed them my favorite, an 1895 Theodore Robinson painting called Washing Day. Harnettstilllife_newspaper_2 We searched in vain for my husband's favorite, William Harnett's Table Still Life (I think it's in New York), and then we stepped back and let the children fall in love with their own favorites. Henri_red_shawl Stephen was smitten by the Portrait of a Girl with the Red Shawl, a Robert Henri painting that my aunt purchased for my uncle's sixtieth birthday. As the children gazed, Aunt Diane told the stories of the paintings. It was, beyond the shadow of a doubt, a most glorious and memorable art history course, all on a Sunday afternoon.

Mary Beth sat up on my aunt's bed and just took a tour around the room. Miller_sunlight_and_snow Aunt Diane told her about Sunlight and Snow and how the woman who lived in the house from which Richard Miller painted the picture, found old canvases separating the compartments of the boot box in the mudroom and found even more discarded canvases in the attic.

Wyeth She pointed out the patch on N. C. Wyeth's The Faded Tablecloth and explained that it had once been a window, by Wyeth didn't like that light in his studio so he closed it up. When he set to paint the still life, he painted it true to life, complete with the patched wall. From Wyeth,  they let their eyes wander to a Whistler etching and Aunt Diane explained to Mary Beth how etchings are created.

Around the room they went, and my little girl listened, enraptured to one fascinating "backstory" after another. As I took it all in, I recognized that the "backstory" isn't incidental, it's germane. One doesn't have to know the story to love the painting, but the stories do help make the painting come alive in a special way.

Left to wander and to wonder, my children truly could not get enough of the visual feast. I watched as the air conditioned chilliness took hold of the damp bathing suits and teeth started to chatter and lips began to turn blue. A six-year-old boy stood in rapt wonder with his four-year-old sister in front of a statue of a a dancing girl.Vonnohdancinggirl_2 I could barely pry Stephen away from the Girl in the Red Shawl. I wish I could take credit for this sophisticated appreciation of art. I cannot. Truly, the environment captured their hearts and their imagination.

It did my heart good to see them so enraptured and to watch their relationship with my aunt blossom so beautifully. Her passion shone through everything she said and did with them and they began to understand that this world was a part of their world, too. They were also getting to know my uncle, who died five years ago. American art was his passion and his passion is being passed to his nieces and nephews. At the end of the afternoon, after hours of contemplation, Mary Beth led my aunt into the office. Redfieldbirchesandharbor_2 "That," she said "is my favorite of all." She was pointing to a large painting behind the desk. My aunt pulled Mary Beth close in a hug. "That was uncle Tom's favorite, too."

When we went back to my mother's house, they paid close attention to the art hung on the walls there.  They noticed some fine American art. They also noticed paintings created by my mother's other sister and by Aunt Diane herself. A growing appreciation for visual art was taking hold.

On our last night at the beach, my mother encouraged my husband and I to go out to dinner at a nice restaurant and have a proper "date." Without thinking twice, we carried out from a nearby Italian bistro and ate on the balcony facing the sea at my aunt's house. She had returned to New York for a buying trip and we had the place to ourselves. After dinner, we wandered from room to room and drank in the art. We remembered that after our wedding, twenty years ago, we had no money and strict mandate to return to work bright and early Monday morning. We spent Sunday at the National Gallery of Art. Art was our honeymoon. We bought two prints that day and had them framed for our home. True, the weren't "real, live originals" as Stephen has become fond of saying, but they were beautiful.  We committed to continue to pursue the family passion in our own new family.

In the days following our beach vacation (I'm not calling it a trip anymore--isn't it amazing how little time it takes to gild a memory?), I thought often about how beauty in our environment affects our lives. Our lofty plans to have a home filled with beauty had been a bit derailed. In truth, there were paintings stacked in a storage room in the basement that I'd never gotten around to hanging. As we added children, beauty gave way to practicality and things became a bit more--um--utilitarian with every birth. I didn't have the time to do much about my thoughts.  We turned right around five days after the Florida vacation and drove to Long Island for a family reunion to celebrate my great Aunt Ida's ninetieth birthday.

We stayed in a very blessed cottage. To say that this cottage took my breath away upon entering is not to exaggerate. It was truly beautiful. The walls were painted a delightful green and huge windows let in the light filtered only by the splendid trees outside.  Skylights brought the beautiful blue sky into the rooms below. It looked as if Miss Lavender of Avonlea had bumped into Beatrix Potter amongst the trees and flowers (and many bunnies) outside and they had conspired together to design a place of beauty and grace.

On the walls were murals of soaring trees with puffy pink flowers, birds, and bees and butterflies. Karoline kept trying to pick the flowers that "grew" along the baseboard. I was inspired once again by the beauty of my surroundings. On the morning of the birthday party, I wrapped a present for my Aunt Ida. It was two framed collages of portraits of my children. I mused about how fitting it was that these were pictures to hang on the wall. Truly , they represented the "art" of my life. I hadn't wrapped the pictures at home because I didn't want them to get bumped and ripped in the van. So, I wrapped them there. And I got a bit carried away in the creativity of it all. I had brought a few things from home with which to embellish packages and I threw myself into the task at hand with  great gusto. My husband watched with a bemused smile. "It's in your genes, isn't it?" he asked.

I don't know that it was genetic at all. I think I was more inspired by the spirit of the cottage and I was prodded along in creating beauty by the beauty of the place itself. And it got me thinking about home again.

When we returned home, we discovered that the basement had flooded. I was literally being forced to re-think environment from the bottom of this house to the top. I began to dig out of the basement and re-create the space with beauty in mind. My house needs to be efficient but it doesn't need to be devoid of beauty. And, as so often in my life, as I worked, I thought about my children and education. The work of my hands reflected my new attitude. My educational plans need to be efficient and full of beauty. Beauty is useful. It has a very useful function. It inspires and soothes and ministers. I wonder at why someone would eschew art. A life without art is sure to become cynical and devoid of joy.

So, with a very soggy basement and a house in need of sprucing up, I was left to do all my planning for the coming year in my head as I mopped and de-cluttered and hung pictures and repainted. And you can bet that  all that planning, which has yet to be committed to paper or computer memory, is rooted in the good, the true, and the beautiful.

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To college

Twenty-nine minutes. That’s how long it took this morning totake him from our home to the dorm where he now lives. Twenty-nine minutes isn’t very long. People keep telling me that. But it isn’t home, either. We went in two cars—Christian, Karoline, and I took the van and Michael went with my husband in the other car. Christian doesn’t talk much and that was fine with both of us. I was alone with my thoughts. In 29 minutes, I had time to think of all the times we’d driven the same drive.

 

There were the times, before I was married, that I drove there alone and then walked in the park-like setting and talked about wedding plans with my groom-to-be. There was the day of Michael’s baptism. There were all the many, many Sundays at Mass in the Lecture Hall. There were countless basketball games and visits to Daddy at the field house on campus where he worked. There was the time Michael kicked the soccer ball down the hall of the Athletic Department offices and Gordon Bradley, the men’s coach at the time, peeked his head out of the office and said, “Sign him up, right now.” They turned out to be prophetic words.

 

As we turned onto Roberts Road , I remembered the time we gathered here and Michael—who was only five—turned over a shovelful of dirt at the chapel groundbreaking. A little over a year later, he was the first person to celebrate a first holy communion in the chapel. He was so surprised and honored to find that all the students of the campus ministry had ordered a cake and planned a party for him afterwards. Twenty-nine minutes and in many ways, it was like driving home. There are so many, many memories on that campus. But it isn’t home. Home is a warm, light-filled house with boys and girls who all look strikingly alike. Michael is now living away from home.

 

I had  imagined a lot of things about this day. One thing I did not imagine was how I would feel when we walked into the dorm. Because Michael was arriving early for pre-season soccer training, the campus was quiet. No one else was in his dorm when we moved his belongings into his room. The room was small and barren. Cinderblock walls and a concrete floor housed Spartan furniture. It looked a bit like a prison cell to me. It smelled like athletic shoes. I held my baby tightly. The mother in me wondered briefly if there was lead in the peeling paint. The mother in me was struggling with this environment. For nearly nineteen years, I’ve put my heart and soul into creating the most nurturing environment possible. And now, I was going to leave my child in this cold, concrete cave. The warm, light-filled rooms of home seemed more than 29 minutes away.

 

Michael didn’t seem to mind at all. And Christian peeled the baby from me and delighted in putting her in the empty refrigerator box. We took pictures of it all and the scene played out before me. But I don’t think I was really there. I was in a hospital room with a tiny blue-eyed bundle. I was on a soccer field with little boy we called the “Blond Bomber.” I was in a light-filled kitchen on a snow day, making cookies and admonishing him to keep his fingers out of the dough. I was anywhere but here.

 

We can’t stop time. And really, do I want to? To try to stop time is to sin against hope. I’ve loved having Michael with me as he grew. I have to remember that the time before us will be blessed as well. For every wonderful memory I have of this place, Michael will have more. He is going grow here and it is all very good.

 

Mercifully, none of the men with me today—Mike, Michael, or Christian—commented on the tears that rolled down my cheeks as I pulled out of the parking lot. I turned right and directly in front of me, at the end of the road, stood the chapel. This was the chapel we helped to build, the chapel we knew so long ago would bless countless young men and women.  This was the place where Michael used to look around at the college students and dream of the day he would be a big boy. He dreamt of today.

 

I wanted to go in so badly. That was my church, the place where I had turned so many times for comfort and for joy. The big sign in front turned me away. The chapel is closed during August. The church is for the students and most of the students are not yet there. Never did I understand so well the phrase “MotherChurch.” Oh please, I prayed, please throw open your doors soon and hold my child. Please mother him well. Please welcome him into the warm, light-filled rooms behind those closed doors. You are right here. I am 29 minutes away.