The Loveliness of Summer

Livesoflovelinesslogo200612_2_2The Summer Fairs! Please consider the loveliness of:

  • Summer Food on July 9 (Sarah will be your hostess)
  • Little Boys on July 16 (Monica will be your hostess)
  • Summer Reading July 23 (Sarah R. will be your hostess)
  • The Seashore on July 30 (Elaine will be your hostess)
  • Clearing the Clutter   August 6 (Lorri will be your hostess)
  • Summer Gardens August 13 (Ruth will be your hostess)
  • "Back-to-School" Supplies and Lesson Plans August 20 (Kim will be your hostess)
  • Summer Vacations August 27 (Cindy will be your hostess)

Drop me a note in the comments section if you'd like to host a fair!

Considering Childhood

When the Rule of Sixstarted making its way around the blogoshpere, I had a very new baby. I thought it was a meme and I gave little thought to carefully choosing my ideas. I borrowed ideas from here and there and put together my list. Several months later, I had the idea to revisit the list and see where we were. And then I took that list and wrote it again. Then, I realized I couldn't separate what was mine from what was in someone else's voice because it was all a jumble in my head. So, I had the idea to take the list, tweak it yet again, and then go back to Real Learning and describe each item in words I knew were mine. Now, the list looks like this:

  • Live the Liturgy
  • Experience loveliness
  • Breathe deeply: Fresh air and exercise:   
  • Serve others
  • Listen to, contemplate, and exchange ideas. 
  • Develop expressive skills.   
  • Practice logical reasoning. Math.
  • Receive focused attention and affection

Live the Liturgy: Like everything else we teach a child, the atmosphere and the discipline of religious formation is integral to its success. Catholics have rich traditions of the liturgical year upon which to build a foundation of both knowledge and love of God and his Church. It is in living the liturgical year with our children in the heart of our families that we are best able to convey the expression of genuine faith in the beauty of the Catholic Church...Crafts, and reading and writing activities, are seamlessly incorporated into our lesson time, bringing home the point that there is nowhere that religion ends and real life begins. Particular Bible studies, meditations, saints' stories, and the celebration of sacrament anniversaries are planned for teatime. Teatime is my liturgical year tableau. [pages 120 & 122]

Experience Loveliness:It is even simpler to see His hand in art and literature, poetry and music, and the infinite beauty of nature. God is there. He wants us to know Him there, and He wants our children to know Him, too. [page 23] We continue to educate our children at home because of the freedom to choose excellent books which stir children's hearts and inspire their souls. We continue to educate our children at home because here we are able to surround them with fine music and lovely art all day long. And we continue to educate our children at home because here an eleven-year-old boy can cradle a sick baby and learn the lesson of rare and lasting love. [page 229]

Breathe Deeply: Fresh Air and Exercise: Make athletics a family pursuit. Try hiking or biking together. Consider some less commonly pursued sports like water-skiing, dance or racket sports. If you take the lead and find something you enjoy, your children will follow. When athletics become part of the family culture, they are infinitely rewarding.[page 178]

Serve Others:Children who are charged with household responsibilities reap the benefits of learning life skills, time management, and perseverance. If your children are trained in household routines from the time they are old enough to toddle, they will have a firm foundation of right habits upon which to rely. Over the long haul, children derive satisfaction at a job well done which goes far beyond canned warm fuzzies and carries them much farther into the real world than advertising hype ever will.

Listen to, Contemplate, and Exchange Ideas:The atmosphere of the home we are considering is alive with living books and living ideas. There are art books and prints of works by the great masters. There is a garden, however small, where wee hands are invited and encouraged to touch, to feel, and to grow. And every afternoon, at four o'clock there is teatime. Flowers on the table, Mozart on the CD player, and a goodie or two on the table. The children are seated around the table where they are given the undivided attention of their mother and encouraged to talk; to discuss and to relate living ideas; to celebrate the feasts of the liturgical year. That is the atmosphere of education. [page 31]

Develop expressive skills:In a household where narration s a daily habit, children learn to listen carefully the first time. They learn to pay close attention while reading (an art that is all but lost in an age of readily available information). They also learn to express themselves effectively. It is this expression that will be the hallmark of an excellent education. A child's ability to communicate well, both verbally and on paper, is absolutely essential. It does not matter what he knows unless he can convey that knowledge well. The most important thing our children can learn to do, and indeed the call of each and every child, is to go out and make believers of every nation. They cannot do that unless they can tell the Good News clearly and compellingly. [page 65-66]

Practice Logical Reasoning: Math: We cannot shirk our responsibility to help our children learn to think like mathematicians. Ours is an increasingly complex, technological world. There is no ducking math--it's everywhere. Instead, we should encourage them to embrace the precision and the logic. We should provide the tools and present the living ideas. Children can be inspired by stories of mathematicians. They can be inspired to become mathematicians. [page 80]

Receive Focused Attention and Affection: In order to bring this lifestyle of learning into your home. you must look for beauty and new ideas, listen to your children's interests and desires, create memories, look for new habits to develop, and give children the grace of time to savor your life at home. Become involved with your children. Look at their hearts. Let them look at yours. Give them your focused attention. Edith Stein encourages, "The children in school do not need merely what we have but rather what we are." [page 44]

I first selected the passages over a month ago and then I put the project aside in order to attend to Real Life. But my own words rattled around in my head and I found that I believe them more today than when I wrote them. And some of them were written nine years and four babies ago! They've stood the test of time in my home. I own them. They are me. But they are the best of me. They are what I strive to be, not what I always am.

I've resolved to use my list--I call it "A Considered Childhood"-- as an organizing principle as I plan and record our days. So, without further ado, it's time to dust off Faithful over Little Things, and record our days once more.

Some days...

...you wonder if you can do one more thing, wipe one more tear, pat one more back. Some days start after you've spent the night rocking a feverish baby and you know from the dawn that there will be no nap. And you ask yourself if anyone notices that you're giving so much and working so hard and loving so completely. And once in a lifetime, on a day like that, your baby looks at you and says "Mama" for the very first time. And you know, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that someone does.

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Rambling Conference Musing...

As Karoline wrote, our conference experience began with severe sleep deprivation. After three days of serious crisis and not a little trepidation about leaving in a state of crisis, I flew west. For me, this was a big deal. I don't leave my children easily. But I'm so glad I went to Denver and I think my husband is, too. The gaggle we left behind? Rumor has it they ate chicken wings and pizza and ice cream, played incessant games of Wii, and watched four movies (and yes, I did leave them with grownups--just way more fun grownups than your average;-). It's all good.

It's been three years since I've been to a conference and that time, I just buzzed in, gave my talk, and buzzed back out. The year before that, I spent hours and hours signing books between talks. So, it's been a very long time since I've had time to actually peruse vendor tables. I kept sending people over to see Nancy MacArthur at Catholic Heritage Curriculum, so I wandered over to introduce myself. What a warm, lovely lady! I placed my order for essentials for the year and I had a chance to peruse some new items. Two thumbs up on the new level of Language of God. The high school literature study guides looked wonderful.

There are new Latin readers and some new features in the preschool curriculum. I was disappointed not get a peek at Alice Cantrell's promised Tea and Cake with the Saints but Nancy assured me that it would be available as we plan our fall teatimes.

I paid a visit to the Institute for Excellence in Writing as well. What additions they've made in the past few years! I was tickled to talk Thomas Jefferson Education with the representative there and I was particularly pleased to find American History themed lessons for Patrick and Christian. I like to introduce Structure and Style lessons after my children have demonstrated that they can narrate easily and fluently in writing. Then, the structure suits the child and they appreciate the style techniques. We are going to focus on American History as a family this year and these lessons will take quite a planning burden away from me.

I also had a lovely conversation with Linda Nelson from Sacred Heart Books and Gifts. She told me some stories of things she's done with my book that humbled and inspired me.  There are some very good people in vendor halls of homeschooling conferences!

While I was scheduled to talk for two hours, once on Friday and once on Saturday, I actually talked more last weekend than I did in the entire two weeks prior. I listened a lot, too. I heard parents tell me that they were grateful to have finally discovered that they can relax and trust their instincts a bit more when it comes to educating their children. I heard them tell me that they are just beginning to understand that they don't need an accredited school to hold their hand--sometimes that it's not hand-holding at all, but bondage. I heard them tell me that they love nature study and they want it to be the centerpiece of education at least for a season (and who wouldn't with the Rockies out your back door?).

I heard the hard stories about trying to educate at home while being called back  into the workforce. I heard from the lady who put all her children in school two years ago following the birth of a baby and sold all her curricular materials. The next year, she was buying all new materials and hoping for another baby! I heard about a miscarriage that left deep and painful scars that would not heal. Those are the stories that have been committed to my rosary.

And engraved on my heart.

Img_3529 I had the opportunity to meet some 4Real friends and have them become "for real" friends. I felt like I'd known MaryM all my life and I wanted to take her home with me. Sometimes you know, you just know, that someone is as kindred a spirit as they come and time and distance seem huge and not so big at all, all at the same time.

Img_3456 Kim and I have been at a conference together before this one--many, many years and many children ago. This time, we sang the same song and found ourselves echoing each other. Our husbands and babies got to know each other and we celebrated the end of a glorious weekend by going out to dinner in Downtown Denver before going home. Karoline was enchanted by the street band, the robot, the horse-drawn carriages and the Chinese food .

Img_3454_2 The unexpected beneft to the weekend was the time I had with my husband and baby. Believe it or not, we don't talk all that often about home education. We've worked out a lot of the big questions for ourselves and Mike leaves most of the day-to-day decisions to me. This was a rare weekend of total immersion in my world. I think he really enjoyed it.  And rarely, do Mike and I have Karoline all to ourselves. She floats from one doting sibling to another and our attention is diverted and dispersed among eight children and our other responsibilities. But on this weekend, she was in my arms or her Daddy's arms at all times. She was pretty high maintenance. As long as she was held, she was happy--but there was no putting her down! Mike fell utterly and completely in love with her all over again. On our last night in Denver, I put her between us in the bed to nurse to sleep. She nursed briefly and then turned to Mike, who was sitting with his laptop. She scooted in towards his elbow and tried mightily to continue nursing. I gently turned her back  toward me. She nursed again briefly and then scooted back towards her Daddy. She was certain she could find with him a comfort she had heretofore only found with me. It was  difficult for Mike to leave her to go to work on Monday morning.

It was such a huge effort to prepare to go and there were mountains  made  of laundry that rivaled the Rockies  awaiting me when I got home.  But, oh, I'm so, so glad we went!

(Many thanks to Mary for the pictures.)