It's "C" Week!

Fairy_dust_pictures_016_2Actually, it's "D" week at Friday Funschool, but we're a week behind Kim, who has the real cornucopia of ideas. So, for us this week was all about C. Yesterday, in addition to Kim's C ideas, we had coffee with cream and cinnamon and a candle and C cookies! We told some stories about C and learned a C poem and we had chicken and cream cheese enchiladas for supper. (I noticed that "C" is very food friendly. )Fairy_dust_pictures_015_2 We also took a good look at the Chicory Fairy. , among the other C Fairies. So, today's latte should be of the chicory variety. Happy C!September_2007_010_2

Practical Life with Little Ones

I was going to write a full-blown post on the Montessori approach to practical life.  Then, I remembered that Rebecca has already written two and they are awesome.  She wrote about care of self and  little ones in the kitchen.  I encourage you to read, absorb and implement the wisdom there.

So that frees me up to answer CityMom's pressing question.  She writes: 

Thanks for this and the great preschool arts and crafts post. I am wondering how you manage your time. In theory I love the poem you post about childhood, but the thought of fingerpaints right now makes me want to cry -- so much of the preschool work (even when done in Montessori fashion) requires Mom to be right there with them. My 4 and 3 year old had been in a surge on independant work, but now the twins (almost 2) want to do painting and play dough and things, and it all breaks down so quickly into a huge mess!Do you have a seperate time set aside for these kinds of work? How does this fit in with the older children's school day?

My introduction to motherhood was much more of a gentle slope than yours, CityMom.  You definitely ended up in the deep end very quickly after getting your feet wet! I had one child for almost four years before our second was born.  During that time, I had cancer and underwent chemotherapy and radiation.  Lissa and I were chatting recently about some lessons learned during times of compromised immunity that I'd never really recognized until recently.  They were just a part of me without being officially analyzed (which makes them a pretty rare part of me since I analyze everything). 

During chemotherapy and radiation and for several months afterwards, I couldn't be exposed to the germs of the "the world."  That meant that the pool was off limits.  So was the playground, playgroups, most play dates, grocery stores, children's museums, zoos--pretty much anywhere with people. Add to that the fact that we only had one car and Michael and I pretty much lived a cloistered life.

But, I embraced that life wholeheartedly.  I didn't care about the inconveniences of the illness.  What I cared about was that I was alive and I had my husband and child with me.  In His providence, God had put us in a tiny townhouse that backed up to Pohick Valley Stream Park.  A creek ran through the park property behind mine.  And Michael and I had that whole wooded, leafy, creek-fed park and all its inhabitants to ourselves.

We also had a fully stocked art cabinet (brought home from my classroom two years before).  At the risk of dating myself, children's television (4 network channels and PBS) was limited to Sesame Street and Reading Rainbow. We had no computer.

So what did I discover? I discovered that I could spend hours a day being fully present to my child.  We ate together, walked in the woods together, did messy art projects together, gardened our very small plot of land together, played in the wading pool on the deck together, read stacks and stacks of books for hours together and napped together every day.  Essentially, I literally clung to him for dear life. Yep, I was right there with him all the time.

As I recovered, our world widened a bit.  But we had learned certain habits so well that they were inculcated into our beings.  For me, the key to being a mother at home was to be at home.  And my happiness there depended upon my being able to limit my television and telephone (and later, computer) time--because those things could easily take me from home without my even getting dresssed! The key was to be fully present.

Lest you think that Michael suffered from his cloistered early childhood, let me assure that is not the case.  The boy, now 17, has traveled all over the USA and the UK.  Last weekend, he got himself from a soccer field to an airport in North Carolina, flew to DC only to discover his connecting flight had been cancelled, booked himself on a later flight, and flew to LAX late at night.  There, his father was waiting for him.  The two of them will spend the week on one of many California adventures, this one planned entirely by Michael.

So, let's go back to the fingerpaint question.  Right now, we have Michael, a 14 year-old, an 11 year-old, a 9 year-old, a 7 year-old, a 5 year-old, a 3 year-old, and a friend's 2 year-old in our home every day. 

The 14 year-old is young in many ways, so is likely to be interested in a painting project but absolutely cannot be sent off to complete schoolwork on his own.

So, here's how the hands-on messy things unfold in my house:  someone little suggests fingerpaint or dough or I have planned a project.  I'm at the kitchen table (where I try to keep messes) or the backyard picnic table (if weather permits) with them.  Sometimes, I even have my own paper. I sit with them--all of them are invited to particpate; I paint with them.  I talk with them.  Then, when someone is tired of the activity and the others are engaged, I follow the one who is leaving.  If he's old enough to do something different, independent of me, I let him go, after ascertaining exactly what it is he plans to do.  If he's a tiny person, he gets scooped up in my arms and we go together to find something new.  I plop down in front of the Tupperware cabinet and help him pull everything out.Then I teach him how to put everything away. We're still in the kitchen, so if someone else is finished with the painting project, I see that, too. What usually happens is that the children who remain at the table are engaged enough to carry on properly without my direct presence.  I've already demonstrated the correct way to use the materials and they know that if they use them inappropriately, I'll put the project away immediately. That leaves me to guide the ones who are not interested. Those are either old enough to do something purposeful on their own or little enough to be contained in my arms or within my reach.

If we're talking about the shelves in the schoolroom, the principle is much the same.  The older children can be started doing seatwork--a math page, a grammar lesson, copywork.  Then I sit on the floor with the little ones.  I have several mats rolled up in a basket.  They get a mat each and unroll it in front of their workspace.  They know (because I've taught them) that the work stays on the mat and that they can expect to keep the mat all to themselves.  No one else is to encroach on somebody's mat.  I present the lesson, usually to more than one child.  After I finish, they are free to continue to work with that material or to choose another material I've already shown them.

If the littlest ones are engaged, I can work with the older ones, still in the same room.  Some days, the little ones are really needy and my time with the older ones is limited to naptime for the little ones.  Usually, by the time you would need large chunks of discussion and instruction time with big kids, you have enough big kids to help you rotate and supervise the little ones.

Babies are with me in a sling or front pack pretty much all the time.(I've never had twins, so I invite mothers of multiples to help CityMom with that aspect.) Crawlers are on my lap with an interesting rattle or such.  Alternatively, they are on a mat next to me with a basket of baby toys and a sibling to show them how to stay and play.  At eighteen months or so, they are learning--with my constant reminders--not to pull things off the shelves and they are incorporated into the routine by the example of their siblings.

It's not always perfect. I've picked up plenty of dumped baskets of blocks.  But I'm right there. So, there's no way he can wreck the whole room before he gets scooped up and redirected.  Often, the re-direction is a book.  Toddler dynamo on my lap, I read to whoever wants to listen.  The situation is defused and we're back to business. Also, babies and toddlers are nursing, so there's no leaving for bottles and such (with the exception of the neighbor's child).

Now that I have older children, a toddler on a backyard swing with a nine-year-old sister is a good option.  That nine-year-old can easily finish her schoolwork during naptime and the outdoor break does them both good. The 11-year-old is only too happy to take two little ones outside to kick a soccer ball around while I read with an early reader. As I type, I'm realizing that these are not great options for someone who lives in the heart of New York City!

I'm trying, for CityMom's sake, to remember a time when everyone was under seven.  And I can feel the tension in my shoulders.  Those were days when bubbles or fingerpaint in the bathrub were great stressbusters for all of us.  The mess is contained and it can all be rinsed down the drain.  Water play is a great calm-inducer.  We baked lots of bread in those days, too. Little people standing on chairs, pulled up to the counter, can pound and knead and shape and take pride in baking "daily bread" daily!  Yes, it takes time and effort and energy, but it also keeps them engaged and happy and learning.  What could be a better use of their time or yours?

And then there was my refuge to that well-forested park.  I know getting outside is a much bigger deal when one lives in a highrise in New York City, but I encourage you to find those places of green where you can go inhale deeply and try to get there every day. It's worth the hassle with the stroller and the packing of drinks and snacks.

Those early days where everyone is so needy are limited, indeed. But they can feel endless, can't they? I remember going to bed at night sometimes, wishing I could sneak out and head down Route 29, back to Charlottesville and college life and just a week or so when I was responsible for no one but myself. Then I'd fall asleep and find that everything truly is better in the morning.

Trying to escape the children, to compartmentalize them into only part of my life, to maintain a large chunk of "identity" apart from them, has always proven counter-productive to me.  We're all happier and even more efficient when I embrace them and this all-encompassing vocation wholeheartedly.  That doesn't mean I don't have my own private reading time (at night) or my own writing time (early in the morning).  Before this pregnancy, I even had a daily workout at the local Curves (I could be home and back before anyone awakened).  But when my children are awake--I'm theirs. (Warning:  once you have both babies and teenagers, there's rarely a time when everyone is asleep.  That's another post entirely.)

I start and end my day with prayer. And then I pray all day long. I ask specifically for patience and grace to be what my children need.  And often, I ask for time.  If I have something I want to write or a pressing project better done without little hands "helping," I ask the Blessed Mother specifically to take that request to her Son.  If Jesus wants me to do it, He'll provide the time.

Inocorporating Rebecca's ideas, the children are a part of the daily household routine. Once our home is running smoothly, we go about the "rest of childhood."  What can I be doing that is more important than forming my children? Something on tv?  Someone on the phone?  A great thought on the computer? Well, occasionally.  I had a day last week when a genuinely urgent computer issue had me both in front of the monitor and on the phone way too much. It hit and snowballed before I could plan for its intrusion.  I suffered.  My children suffered.  The house suffered.  This has occurred enough times for me to guard myself against it as much as humanly possible.

On the flip side, I also have to accept that "stuff happens."  I don't have perfect control over our lives.  Actually, I have little control.  All I can do is beg for the grace to be obedient to my calling. I pray for the self-discipline to "come as soon as I am called."  And to recognize that usually God calls me in the voice of my child.

   

Leading Little Ones to the Good Shepherd

Kim Fry talks frequently about starting with the little ones and building on that foundation.  She doesn't mean just planning the littles' curriculum first and then planning the bigger kids'.  She means to look at what you want the youngest ones to know and then to add layer upon layer so that the entire family's education looks like a rich tapestry.  This makes so much sense--it is one of the beautiful joys of home education.  And it is most evident in the way we approach handing on the faith in our home.

We want to begin with the knowledge that Christ is the Good Shepherd, the tender caretaker, who will call the child by name and protect and comfort her throughout her life.  The Catechesis of the Good Shepherd program is a tangible way to do that. An atrium is a place set apart for a child to encounter and fall in love with God.

Maria Montessori had such a place in her Children's Houses and Sofia Cavaletti has taken the idea into this century. Works in the atrium introduce children to the Good Shepherd and teach them parables and prophecies and the history of the salvation of man, using hands-on materials and a respect for the silence necessary for the child to encounter God. It's a concept rooted in liturgy. Moira Farrell has captured the essence of the atrium for mothers teaching their children at home. Her albums are a great beginning, though not exactly what you find in an institutional atrium. It's a double-edged sword. Montessori education was designed for groups of same-aged children. That was Dr. Montessori's premise and she played off the effects of children on each other. When we bring it home, we gain and we lose. We lose some of the peer consort group influence. But we also gain because we experience the presentations as a family. And, in many instances, parish atria are crippled by the "after school" culture. Remember, Montessori's students were in her Children's Houses all day. They were well-trained and well practiced in the disciplines of silence. Children who are trained to listen to God in the company of their families are blessed indeed.

Modeled after the atria in Maria Montessori's schools over a century ago, this method of listening to God with children has been developed over time by women such as Sofia Cavaletti (who is Catholic) and adapted by folks like Jerome Berryman and Sonja Stewart (who are not Catholic). The books they've written and the oral tradition of the Catechesis of the Good Shepherd training that is based on their work are true treasures.  But the work of Moira Farrell--together with the materials designed and made available by her mother, Julia Fogassy--are what enable home educators--who believe that all of life is an opportunity to learn and home is the most beautiful of all classrooms--to make their homes into atria, and so to bring to life the Domestic Church. And, of course, there is ongoing discussion of the atrium at the 4reallearning message boards, to help you flesh it all out.

For as long as there have been children in my house, there have been storybooks.  Stories embed themselves in a child's heart and live there forever.  It makes good sense to tell children stories of the saints and of traditions and of the Bible.  Jesus left us a treasury of stories; it is our joy-filled duty to share those stories with our children.  And so, we do.  We have shelves of picture books that grow into shelves of chapter books that grow into a full-blown spirituality and apologetics library.  We read about God and his followers throughout the day, every day.

My preschoolers have delighted in The Catholic Children's Treasure Box.  Very old-fashioned in pictures and words, these books touch children in a way that is inexplicable.  They are pricey--collect them slowly; they're well worth the investment.

This year, we are blessed to have Catholic Mosaic to bring together some of the best of children's religious picture books in an organized manner and to offer suggestions for using those books.  I've gushed about this concept before and I'm still gushing. It's a great idea. Handing on the faith through stories is an age-old idea that we all must make our own.  While with most reading lists, the library is often the first place to look, I recommend purchasing most of the Mosaic books.  The books will become a part of the family, to be read again and again, layer upon layer, as children grow and understand more deeply.  The titles can be gift suggestions for grandparents and godparents and anyone who is interested in supporting the growing soul of the child.

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Environment and atmosphere matter greatly when it comes to living holy lives.  Truthfully, we are striving to make our entire homes shine with the presence of the Holy Spirit and envelope us with the comfort of Our Lady's mantle.  We've tried to incorporate our atrium into our learning room. We've stored our picture books on two hand-me-down nightstands, placed below the Mary shelf we made in May.  On the top of one nightstand, one book is highlighted--the book which is most closely represents the current feast of the Church.  On the other nightstand is the Bible stand, a Good Shepherd statue, and a candle, all on a cloth appropriate for the liturgical season. That is our prayer table.

On the floor next to the prayer table is the Good Shepherd work.  With this, the concept of the Good Shepherd is first introduced and then, as the child grows closer to Christ, is expanded to include the meaning of Communion.

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Several years ago, when my oldest daughter began her time in our parish atrium, I wanted a tanglible way to record what she was learning and to integrate it with our story books.  At the same time, Alice was preparing her daughter for First Communion.  She generously shared her ideas for a First Communion notebook.  I adapted those ideas for Mary Beth's unique experience and we began a family tradition.  Slowly, over a child's fifth and sixth year, my children create notebooks with narrations of all that they see and do and hear in the atrium work and all that they learn from the stories. The preschool experience of Catechesis of the Good Shepherd and lots of stories of faith naturally grow into their first real academic "publication." These notebooks are treasures for the child and the parent alike.  I love this time of preparation and of growing closer both to God and to my child.

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On the next shelving unit, I've stored several atrium works.  In the little baskets are small parable sets.  Below them a child finds Noah's Ark, the ten commandments, the nativity, and several other presentations.  These rotate, depending on interest and season.  For instance, after our baby is born, I will present the baptism work and leave it there for my little ones to practice again and again. Following Moira's outline, but adapting it to our family, we can strike a balanced program that is uniquely ours but blessed by the talent and hard work of others.

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The next table is the miniature altar.  We've done those presentations again and again and the older children like to present them to the younger ones. Slowly, layer upon layer, an understanding of the Mass and an appreciation for the Mass is cultivated.  As the children grow, this early experience will blossom into notebook projects like the lovely Easter Vigil notebook Alice designed and shared so generously a couple of years ago.

The liturgy is to be infused in our homes, to influence our choice of menus, home decoration, and family celebrations.  And then there is handwork.  Small children love to make something beautiful for God.  I am indebted to the Alice for the wealth of ideas at Cottage Blessings and her capable and inspired moderation of the Living Faith message board.  That's probably more than enough (especially when you have an occasional themed tea party).  But to have just a little extra inspiration, there are A Year with God and the well-loved classic, The Year and Our Children to provide ideas for bringing the liturgical year to life.

These elements--the atrium, the stories, and living the liturgical year--are the foundation of our "religious education program."  From this foundation, the children grow to gain an understanding of catechism and apologetics, Bible history and morality.  Hour by hour, day by day, year by year, we watch each child grow closer to God in his or her unique way.  But each one of them, from the time they are very little, has personal relationship with the Good Shepherd and a solid understanding of His message.

Earlier in the preschool series:

It's a wonderful thing!

The Art Box

Language Arts for Little Ones

Number Fun

Next up:  Practical Life

Number Fun

This post is part of the preschool series.

Part one is here.

Part two is here.

Part three is here.

Preschool math really is all fun and games.  Learning to count, learning one to one correspondence, even beginning addition and subtraction never need be tedious.  And at this stage of the game, math really can be manipulated all the time. 

Starting at the bottom of the shelf, a collection of Montessori geometric solids can be presented using the Three Period Lesson. After it's been presented, the child can choose that particular work on her own any time.  Learning the names and properties of solids is simple and sensorial.

Next up is the hundred board.This is used by placing numbered tiles on the appropriate squares. Later, skip counting can be represented here as well.Katie can’t really do it alone, but Nicholas and/or Stephen are generally eager to help her.I got mine at a certified Montessori school.It’s a little worn and they were required to replace it with a pristine one in order to be re-certified. It was free!If you want to acquire Montessori materials for you home, it’s worth cultivating a relationship with a school directress.

My hands down favorite hands-on material is Cuisenaire rods.No question, these are versatile, brilliant materials. First a little history from the Cuisenaire UK website :

One of [Georges Cuisenaire's] inventions was a set of coloured wooden rods and some similarly coloured cardboard materials. He used these to teach arithmetic and found he achieved something rare with this subject. The standard of the results he obtained greatly improved and his pupils enjoyed and understood the work they did. Nevertheless this invention remained almost unknown outside the village of Thuin for about 23 years until a providential meeting of this teacher with another resulted in the use of this invention spreading to classrooms throughout the world. And in the 13 years since that meeting the proven success of Cuisenaire’s rods has made his name a household word.

Dr. Caleb Gattegno met Cuisenaire during 1953 It seemed, he wrote some years later as if all his previous work as an educationalist had been in preparation for that moment. For many years he had been a leading figure in the movement to bring improvements to mathematics teaching at the primary and secondary school levels. His firm belief that special teaching technniques coupled with the development of a hitherto unexploited intellectual ability in young children could produce such improvements, had already been demonstrated with encouraging results where his influence had been felt, In Cuisenaire’s rods he saw what many had already seen but found at once what few had been sufficiently prepared to understand Physically the rods behaved in the way numbers behave, providing the learners wnth an algebraic model for the study of mathematics. But perhaps more important still, he realised that they provided teachers with a means for making the lesson a personal investigation of mathematics for every pupil.

And so it is—personal guided discovery of all sorts of mathematics principles using colored wooden rods. The rods are stored on the shelves in sorting trays and I provide rod racks there as well. I present a lesson or two a week and then encourage them to practice the work daily. We start with The Cuisenaire Rod Alphabet Book.  From there, favorite resources for lessons include The Cuisenaire K-2 Super Source Book and Idea Book for Cuisenaire Rods. Eventually, this “play” leads to the use of Addition and Subraction with Cuisenaire Rods and Mathematics Made Meaningful.  Cuiseanire really has an entire curriculum of its own, or we might switch to Miquon, combined with Touchmath.  It really depends on how a particular child "sees" math.

On days when I don't present a Cuisenaire rods lesson, we might spend some time together Exploring with Color Tiles or creating with Pattern Blocks.  Both of these activities are almost guaranteed to draw an older sibling.

Early geometry is tons of fun.  My children can be happily involved with geoboards for long stretches of quiet concentration. I don't often do formal "lessons" here, but encourage lots of creative exploration.  And they pair up:  one child can create an orginal design and another can try to copy it.

The balance is a wonderful tool to use for several years.  It's amazing what you can learn using this:  time, money, measurement, addition, subtraction, Roman numerals, even fractions and decimals! Very cool "toy!"

Base Ten Blocks can be used with base ten lesson plans and they can also as a suitable substitute for Montessori Golden Bead material.  We have a set that snaps together.

Language Arts for Little Ones

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This post is the third part of the preschool series.

Part one is here.

Part two is here.

(First, a disclaimer:  Please remember that my current three-year-old is the seventh child. There have been many gift giving occasions for all our children in the last eighteen years. And remember, that before I was a mom, I was a teacher in an early childhod classroom, where many of the materials were my own.  So, we have years and years of materials.  Certainly, not all of this is necessary.)

A Language Arts "curriculum" for little ones is really the air they breathe.  From the first time you hold an infant, you talk to her.  And so language acquisition begins.  Houses where children are educated at home tend to be print-rich environments where reading takes a high priority.  That's as it should be.

If we sit down to really plan a "curriculum" for the under-5 crowd, quality picture books must be its foundation.  For Katie, those books will come from three sources initially and then hop merrily off on rabbit trails.  The booklists are those found in the early years of the Real Learning list, and the ones found in the manuals of Five in a Row, and the list of books used in Catholic Mosaic. From there, we can go anywhere.

A child learns to read most easily when she has a reason for reading.  So, we give her one.  We open those books all the time and we share with her the excellent stories and pictures inside.  Doing so, we inculcate a strong desire to want to "own" those stories for herself.  She wants access to the richness of language without having to depend on someone else to bring it alive for her.  And so, with most children, the quest to acquire reading skills begins.

To help her along the way, we provide much contact with the letters and print.  Real contact for a three- or four-year-old is tactile.  Let's touch the symbols that stand for sounds.  Sandpaper letters and a moveable alphabet are the gold standard in a Montessori classroom.  We can use those certainly to present classic Montessori lessons. But I don't try to imitate a perfect Montessori classroom. Our language arts shelf is not limited to authentic Montessori materials.

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I include several different alphabet puzzles, both in wood and in Lauri foam.  There is also a chunky ABC picture block set and a magnetic ABC puzzle book. First and foremost, puzzles are fun.  They are engaging and appealing and can be used over and over again by the same child for several years. A puzzle with alphabet letters (and sometimes pictures representing sounds) serves several purposes.  It develops fine motor skills and fine tunes visual perception skills.  It allows a child to "get the feel" of the shape of a letter before attempting to make it abstract in the written form. Puzzles let children play with language from the very beginning and the best writers will tell you that composition is really playing with words.  Begin great composition at the very beginning:  nurture the sense of language play!

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Also on the language arts shelf is a wooden sign language puzzle. The pieces depict the sign language alphabet. Lift the pegged puzzle pieces and the print alphabet letters and an object wich begins with those letters are pictured below. This is the puzzle that began our sign language adventure. And it's this puzzle that led us to Signing Time and the wonderful DVDs that are a daily part of our language study.  So much has been written about the benefits of sign language to hearing children.  I'm firmly convinced that it is a valuable tool--not only for pre-speaking but for pre-reading.  It's a tactile, kinesthetic way to represent abstract words.  What could be better? The DVDs are engaging, endearing and effective.  Lots of moms need that half hour television break--these are far better than most "educational" televsion shows.  The only drawback?  Instead of scurrying off to empty the dishwasher or fold laundry while the wee ones are engaged, you'll probably find yourself watching, too.  Some Sign Babies flashcards round out our multi-sensory approach to signing.

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I really like Handwriting Without Tears' readiness program.  The wooden block letter pieces allow a child to construct a letter before ever attempting to write it.  Then, we can make letters out of dough.  When she's ready, she can practice writing letters on a magnetic screen like an Etch-a-Sketch and on a special slate. Finally, there are some workbooks:-)

The decision to use Handwriting without Tears was one I made under protest.  I loved the Italic handwriting that my oldest learned so easily.  But when Christian really struggled with that and every other traditional handwriting program, I saw that this program, while not beautiful, makes a great deal of sense for the child.  The letters are clear and legible and the entire program is laid out with the thought and care that an experienced occupational therapist can bring to the teaching of writing. For my children who can handle it, the switch to Catholic Heritage Curriculum handwriting books for copywork in the middle grades is nearly effortless.

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Not all of language arts can or should be confined to shelves.  Singing songs, chanting Mother Goose, sharing CDs in the car, and drifting to sleep while Mommy nurses the baby and we all listen to bedtime stories are all a part of the picture.  Don't forget lots and lots of Rhymes, Songs, and Fingerplays!  We only get to be little once, but when we're really, really blessed we can revel in the joy of early childhood and see the bright hope of a happy today and a happy tomorrow through the eyes of our own precious child.

Next up:  Number Fun!