In the Mirror, Whose Image do You See?


A few weeks
ago, some fine men with whom my son has coached basketball for the last six
years organized a party to send him off to college. Christian has grown up with
these men on his bench. He’s been both the assistant coach to their coach and
the coach to their assistant. They’re good guys and a common acceptance of
Jesus as the foundation of each of their lives has always been understood. But
they’ve never really talked about it. Just lived it.


At the
party, they honored Christian with a sweet video, some very kind speeches,
plenty of food, and a giant trophy. Inscribed on the trophy was Ephesians
2:10:  For we are his handiwork, created in Christ Jesus for the good works
that God has prepared in advance, that we should live in them.


They chose
that verse for him and truly, it suits the time he has ahead of him as he
transfers and begins his junior year of college away from home. That’s the
whole point of education isn’t it? Isn’t our purpose in pursuing knowledge to
humbly acknowledge that He crafted us for a specific purpose and He has specific
things He wants us to do?


True joy in
this life lies in discerning His purpose and living His will. It’s a verse not
just for young men in college. It’s a verse for all of us. It’s a verse for
living life intentionally, every day.


God created
me to be someone. I want to be the person He intended. Not only do I want to
live intentionally. I want to live His intention, not mine. In order to live a
life of true integrity, I have to be the woman He created me to be, not the
woman whom I think I want to be (this woman seems to morph and change all the
time), nor the woman I think the world wants. God breathed life into me with a
plan just for me. Life is all about becoming.




As we
struggle with the insecurities that can come with navigating relationships, we
can relinquish our need for approval. Just let it go. God has gifted each of us
extraordinarily. We can embrace those gifts with confidence, unapologetically.
So, too, we can see how our weaknesses, even our inabilities, are the nudges
that push us towards exactly what He envisioned. It’s OK. He’s got this.


Not only has
He created us uniquely for His purpose, He has created us in His image. Next
time you stand in front of a mirror, look closely. Do you see it?  There, in front of you, can you see the
brilliance of your Creator? No? Perhaps you can’t readily see it in your own
reflection. If you sit in the quiet and put yourself in His presence, can you
see it deep within you? Keep looking. It’s there.


We spend so
much time in life trying to figure out who we really are, trying on someone
else to see if it fits. It doesn’t. It will never work to pursue a false life,
never be comfortable to be anything but genuine. True liberation lies in
flinging ourselves into God’s perfect plan.It’s incredibly freeing to be whom
He intended instead of a poor reflection of someone else’s influence over us.
Becoming genuine brings peace.


Blessed John
Paul II wrote:

“It is Jesus that you seek when you
dream of happiness; He is waiting for you when nothing else you find satisfies
you; He is the beauty to which you are so attracted; it is He who provoked you
with that thirst for fullness that will not let you settle for compromise; it
is He who urges you to shed the masks of a false life; it is He who reads in
your heart your most genuine choices, the choices that others try to stifle.
is Jesus who stirs in you the desire to do something great with your lives, the
will to follow an ideal, the refusal to allow yourselves to be ground down by
mediocrity, the courage to commit yourselves humbly and patiently to improving
yourselves and society, making the world more human and more fraternal.”


He has good works prepared
especially for you, whether you are student on a campus in the mountains of
Virginia or a middle-aged mom at her kitchen table. You can only do those works
well if you are genuinely, seamlessly, and wholeheartedly the person He created
you to be. Be who you are.



  1. says

    So relevant to my life right now. How to know when you are trying too hard to be better, or not trying hard enough? This is a struggle for me all of the time. When to push myself a little beyond the comfort of my introverted world? Truly, I would be happy most days spent in my home. Push, pull, stand back. The cycle never ends. Thanks for the thoughts today, Elizabeth!

  2. Patty says

    Over the years you have taught me this over and over again. I know that you get this because you live it. I seem to be a little bit slower getting it, but I am getting it. This just says it all so well. Such wisdom. Thank you.

  3. Joann says

    Beautiful. I pray those words of JPII every morning and it really helps me.
    “Comparison is never proof.” “If I did poorly (versus achieved success), would you feel better?” John Mason

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