On the Last Night of Being Five

Dear Sweet Karoline,

This night is fading into morning and soon it will be your birthday. You're curled up next to me and I watch you sleep. This is your "last night of being five." In the morning, it will be your sixth birthday. We'll go to tea together. Nicky will make you a four layer cake, exactly to your decorating specifications. Will that other front tooth come out? I think it might. 

But right now, in this moment, I want to capture you on the brink of tomorrow. Your sweet face, framed in curls, looks just enough like it did the day you were born that I can take myself back. Perfect baby. Every answered prayer in a sweet bundle with rosebud lips. You captivated everyone that day. We were forever changed. 

There is a collage of four black and white photographs of your newborn days that hangs at the top of the stairs. I stop, even if for only a moment, every. single. time. I never want to forget how I looked at you and knew that God had seen straight into my heart and smiled big when He handed you to me. 

For six years, you have danced your darling way through the life of our family. You are the first to soothe a hurt, whether it's a little sister with a stubbed toe or a big brother with a broken heart. You feel them all and you work your magic to make it all better. 

Ever generous with a hug and a smile, you exude genuine friendliness to every one you meet. You expect the best of people and you look for it so hard that you are rarely disappointed. Sarah Annie considers you her best friend. She is one really blessed little girl. There is no better friend.

You love creation and you love the Creator. You've never met a turtle or a bug or a bird or a bunny that you didn't want to adopt forever. Most nights, your pockets are full of acorns and pebbles and you are always Most Likely to Hide Sticks in the Car so you can bring them home. Sometimes Daddy tries to stop you. Usually those big blue eyes persuade him otherwise.

And God. Oh, how you love your Jesus! He is real and dear to you. You are our walking reminder on the ordinary days, in the ordinary moments, that God is near; God is here. Very matter-of-factly, you just beam it. And we believe it because everything about you says it's so.

Every night, you fall asleep with your feet touching mine. Usually, you start in your bed and then, sometime before morning, you and your kitty pillow find their way into the big bed in my room. You curl up in the middle, seeking Daddy's comfort, and you manage to stretch out across much more than half the mattress. And we don't mind. No, we don't mind at all.

Because we know how blessed we are to linger for a few moments in the loveliness of five and to awaken in the morning to the hope and promise and utter joy that is six.

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Real Quick. I'm up to my eyeballs this week. No sewing at all, but I'm touching a LOT of fabric.

Mama in a fabric store with a dear friend.

Better than being a kid in a candy store.

I chose fabrics for drapes for six rooms in my house and a bunch of pillows and cushions and made major paint decisions about every single room above the basement. And then, we threw in some tile for good measure. (That chart looked way prettier before the painter wrote all over it.) My sewing is more than queued up for the next three months:-). My friend Cari promises to help me through this drapery thing.

And I skipped Yarn Along this week. I learned today that I have to tear out and re-start my Sunday Sweater. So, yeah. negative progress, because all I did was make the yarn "used."

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I haven't started reading yet, but my advance copy of Desperate arrived today. I had to laugh at the timing and the title and the fact that I wished I could stretch out like that girl on the cover. It's been quite a week.

 

Does autumn call you into your sewing space? Are you thinking flannel pjs or cozy quilts? Or are you embroidering? Pulling a needle with thread through lovely fabric to make life more beautiful somehow? Would you share with us just a single photo (or more) and a brief description of what you're up to? Will you tell us about what you're reading, also? Would you talk sewing and books with us? I'd love that so much.

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Thou Shalt Not Make an Idol of Motherhood

“And yet over the years I have come to realize something else about my role as a mother. As important as my role is, and as important as my children are, they are not to be the center of my life, and my central calling is not motherhood…it could even become a form of idolatry. My calling as a mother is the same as any other Christian’s: to fulfill God’s will for our lives and glorify Him…and I am to delight in him and worship him and praise him in whatever circumstance I find myself.”

- Sally Clarkson, The Mission of Motherhood

 

Ah. Herein is the big challenge. Do I make an idol of motherhood? I think, that there is that tendency. Joy's written very thoughtfully about her experience here. 

 

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Oh, dear...this very thoughtful post has been interrupted for an orthodpedic emergency. I was merrily writing along and I got one of "those" phone calls. That's as far as I got. Let's recap shall we?

  • It's birthday week: 4 birthdays in 6 days.
  • Michael crashed his car.
  • Mike is in Miami (I tell you that because he will return shortly)
  • The painter arrives in an hour to begin to paint every wall, ceiling, and trim in my house.
  • The little girls have croup (read: I am not sleeping.)
  • Christian wrote a 10 page paper yesterday. (read: I edited until it was this morning.)
  • Patrick trained in the rain last night (his 18th birthday) and left the field on crutches. Team doctor is in Maryland. We're planning on it taking the whole day. (read: I'm packing my knitting.)

 

And that, my friends, is my mission today. My mission is clear and it's not here.  Feel free to converse in the combox. Don't miss yesterday's combox. There's so much wisdom there! Do go visit Joy.  I'll be back after I get Patrick back on his feet.

This post is part of 31 Days To Remind Myself of the Mission. I'd love to hear your thoughts about mission and vocation in the comment box. Find all the posts in the series here. And please, help yourself to a button if you want one for your blog. I'd love to read what you say there. 

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Brought to You by the Letter B

[Note: Serendipity has been updated but the "B" link is the old link, so as not to render all other links useless. new content, old link. I'm working on fixing the "A" link; so sorry for the inconvenience

 

For the "B" Alphabet Path story, see the updated post on Serendipity. Below are more ideas for B, enough to keep our family busy for at least two weeks. All these ideas are also on the "B" post at Serendipity.


Lesson Plans:

Presentation:   You can use the drawing of St. Bernadette in An Alphabet of Catholic Saints  as a visual when telling this story.  You may want to copy it to card stock and add it to your child's main lesson or sketch book.   

Language: 

Use the Letter B of  St. Bernadette as an introduction to letter formation.  Have the child trace the B with his or her finger.  Practice the Letter B by copying the model drawing.  Older children can draw the picture of Bernadette as well. Use the short poem in An Alphabet of Catholic Saints as copywork and place it with the picture in your child's saints notebook.

Use the Song as copywork for the week. And learn the song from the CD.

 

Read the story "A Brave Sentinel" to your child and use it for reading practice.  (Download a_brave_sentinel.pdf ) of the story and add it to your personal Alphabet Path Storybook

Nature Study:

(Don't try to do it all--these are options for science and nature study)

  • After the story has been told, you can research the botanical information and plant idenification and record them in a sketchbook or main lesson book.  Or perhaps you would prefer flower storybook paper for letter writing practice and copywork.  (An older child can do this independently, but a younger child can give an oral narration which you write or keyboard for him or her.)
  • With your older child, you might choose to work through Apologia's Discovering Creation with Botany. Read a section and then ask your child to narrate the information in his main lesson book.  Always encourage your child to illustrate his narrations.  Work on the experiments that you feel would be most beneficial for your child.  Take a picture of the finished project and add it to his main lesson book. The pace at which you move through this book is not as important as the child having an opportunity to really understand the material.  Go at your child's pace. I highly recommend the notebooks to go with the botany book, for both older and younger children.
  • We've had great success encouraging older children to take their flower narrations well beyond what is provided at the Flower Fairy site. These children are able to truly appreciate the vast varieties of flowers and to see God's creativity when they consider the lilies of the field.
  • For some children, a living books/picture book approach seems to resonate and be more meaningful than any other approach. Consider choosing meaty picture books to teach the same concepts. If you choose to pursue this course of study, here is a science-themed picture book study for this letter:

 

Storybook Science: B is for Birds

Art:

Using the illustration in The Flower Fairy Alphabet Book, ask the child to sketch the The Bugle Fairy in the main lesson book.  A younger child can color the The Bugle Fairy in the Flower Fairy Alphabet Coloring Book . Perhaps on another day the child could model the fairy or flower with modeling beeswax.  (Sources of excellent quality modeling beeswax can be found on the right sidebar.)

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For this week's picture study, Museum ABC focuses on BOAT on the B page. 
It's interesting to look carefully at just one segment of the painting in the book. The children can discuss what they think the rest of the painting might look like before you show them the print. The full image of Thomas Eakins' The Champion Single Sculls is here .

Really look at the picture.  Soak in the details.  Ask your child to narrate with a prompt such as, "Pretend that I am going to the Metropolitan Museum of Art for the first time and want to find this painting.  What details could you give me so that I could more easily find it?"  Keyboard the narration and ask your child to sketch the work of art.  A younger child can copy the painting while an older child can narrate from memory and discover how much detail he remembers by attempting to sketch it from memory. Over the course of this unit, consider collecting the narrations and sketches in a single album and create your own family art history book. 

(The goal of Picture Study is to train the eye toward the beautiful. Biographical information about the artist is secondary. Set the work of art as your family computer's wallpaper or screen saver or print the painting on card stock and display it on the refrigerator.  After spending time with a picture and really taking the time to look at it, your child will make a connection.  There is no need to explain a great deal, especially to a young child.  Allow the child to make his own connection with the art. )

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Faith:  

An Alphabet of Catholic Saints: St. Bernadette. Learn the rhyme this week. 

An Alphabet of Mary: This lovely book is a new addition this year. We're so excited to create a Mary notebook, with the children making a page for every letter, learning titles of Our Lady and how to love her more as we go. 

Read about St. Brendan in Letters from Heaven Letters from Heaven offers a scripture verse at the bottom of the page.  Look it up with the children and commit it to memory. (Letters from Heaven introduces saints from the Eastern Orthodox tradition. St. Brendan is a saint in common.)You can download the watercolor of St. Brendan the Navigator here (Download b_is_for_brendan.pdf ) and use it as a visual when telling this story.  You may want to print it on cardstock and add it to the child's main lesson or sketch book. Read the story of St. Brendan in Letters from Heaven.  Older children can research St. Brendan and narrate his life by making a page on the saint in their main lesson book. Jean Fritz has authored a children's book on this saint as well. 

Each week we will be making a Wee Felt Saint or two.  Or perhaps you'd prefer to paint saints as Jessica did.

E is for Eucharist: This book is very meaty. Each page is detailed and worth considerable discussion time. B is for baptism. 

There is much opportunity for narration and notebooking for all ages in reading lists of the Faith section. Read the selections aloud to all ages of children. Assign chapter book biographies to older children. Draw pictures and record narrations of the lives of each saint. Then, when the feast of that saint is celebrated in the life of the Church, revisit an old friend and have a a little party at tea time. These are stories to read and read again.

Read Faith Stories

Brigid's Cloak

St. Brendan and the Voyage Before Columbus

Bernadette: Our Lady's Little Servant

Saint Bosco and Dominic Savio

I highly recommend this DVD: St. John Bosco: Mission to love.

Read about these saints in the Loyola Kids Book of Saints:
St. Boniface
St. Bernadette
St. Bernard
St. John Bosco (I know his first name is a "J"--Get to know him now or study him later--but be sure to get to know him him:-)

Read about these heroes in the Loyola Kids Book of Heroes:
Sr. Blandina
St Barnabas

 

 

Ideas for "B Week:"

Meet the Author: B is for Jan Brett

Suggested Books for Read-Alouds and Narrations (These are to be narrated both verbally and artistically.  For the younger children it is often fun to keyboard an oral narration for them and then ask the child to illustrate the printed page.)


Childhood Favorites

The Tale of Benjamin Bunny
Peter in Blueberry Land
Brown Bear, Brown Bear, What Do You See?
Bedtime for Frances
The Runaway Bunny
Billy and Blaze
Jesse Bear, What Will You Wear?
Bear Snores On
Blueberries for Sal
B is for Bookworm
The Legend of the Teddy Bear
The Legend of the Sleeping Bear


Fairy Tales, Tall Tales and Hero Tales:

In The Children’s Book of America, read:
Paul Bunyan

The Children's Book of Virtues, read: Boy Wanted and Little Boy Blue

Poetry Memorization: Read "How Doth the Little Busy Bee" by Isaac Watts in Favorite Poems Old and New. Recite daily and make notebook page.

Writing Instruction:

Young children are encouraged always to narrate aloud the stories which have been read to them. Occasionally, keyboard those narrations as the child tells it and allow him or her to illustrate the printed narration.

For more structured writing lessons for children who are in the 3rd-5th grades,  IEW Fables, Myths, and Fairytales Writing Lessons dovetail nicely with the Alphabet Path theme.


 Serendipi-Tea Time Recipes
Blueberry-Blackberry pie with Bumblebees (recipe forthcoming) and  Blueberry Smoothies

Fun for the Little Ones

Jessica in 2009

Kim's Friday Funschool B

Dawn's Kinderweek: Bugs and the Letter "B"

On Mission and Mentors and Miles to Go Before I Sleep

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    "One woman, an older missionary, even advised, "Don't let your children conrol  your life! You got lots of gifts and messages and a ministry to share with the women of the world! It would be a waste of your time and experience to focus too much on your children and lose your ministry! Don't have more children. It will take up too much time."
    "Confusion and questions began to flood my soul. What is right? I love teaching women's groups! I don't want to lose what I've spent so many years developing! And hasn't God called me to this work? Don't I have a stewardship--an obligation to continue in my ministry in order to help others? But I have waited so long to have a child. Shouldn't this child have first priority in my life?" Sally Clarkson in The Mission of Motherhood
    I am one chapter into the book and I'm tempted to skip to the end and see how it all turns out. This is, of course, the tension I've revisited my entire adult life. From the first time I threw up in the classroom bathroom (confusing the heck out of the first graders outside the door when I insisted I wasn't sick), to leaving the "perfect" work-from-home job I loved, to making decisions nearly every day not to speak somewhere or write something or even to read too much. 
    Here's where I confess that I spent an hour on the phone with Sally herself yesterday and I know with all certainty that these questions are never answered once and for all. There is no skipping to the end of the book and wrapping the answers up in a neat bow. They are answered again and again, in every new season, with every new opportunity. 
I awoke yesterday to the news that Patrick will most likely begin his studies at the University of Virginia in January. I admit I wish he were going in August instead. I admit that I wanted to cry. OK, I admit that I did cry.
    Then, I spent most of the day with my friend Cari. I've known Cari since two days after I got married. She lived a few doors down and she taught me how to plan menus and how to make a pie crust and how to cut little boys' hair and yes, she even tried to teach me how to sew. Years later, those early mentoring sessions "stick" in ways that continue to bless me. She came over to help me choose fabric for drapes all over my house. We've lived here eleven years. I'm finally going to have curtains. I feel like a big girl.
    Cari and I caught up. We talked about our big kids, the ones who were little together. All three of hers are grown and married. And what we recognized, as we traded stories and prayer concerns, is that you never stop being a mom. The job isn't finished. Indeed, I feel like it's a well kept secret that motherhood actually can be more emotionally challenging and more time consuming when your children aren't really children any more. (There, I've probably broken some unspoken rule and told a lot of younger moms that potty training isn't as hard as it gets.)
    Later in the afternoon, I had the chance to lock myself in my room and talk with Sally. (Little did I know that Cari was measuring my windows and cleaning my kitchen while I was on the phone--she's good like that.) My conversation with Sally only affirmed what I was feeling. The mission to be a mother isn't a short-term gig. This mission is a vocation. It's our primary path to heaven. God isn't finished with us when our children are old enough to drive.
    Speaking of driving, my oldest wrecked his car last night. 
    Big kids. Big things. See?
    After driving to soccer, I called one more friend. A new friend, but one who, like me, has big kids and little kids. I ran this whole theory by her. We're not finished. We all know parents who think their jobs are finished when a child reaches 18 or so. I know parents who say that those big kids have no right to large amounts of their time. But my experience doesn't bear that out. Just as I was grateful to have a mentor at 21 (when Cari spent lots of time sharing life and faith over sewing machines and rolling pins), my children are thinking big thoughts, praying big prayers and I am grateful they want to talk about them with me.

This post is part of 31 Days To Remind Myself of the Mission. I'd love to hear your thoughts about mission and vocation in the comment box. Find all the posts in the series here. And please, help yourself to a button if you want one for your blog. I'd love to read what you say there. 

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